The holding of expectations doesn’t resonate.
In accordance with direct experience - why is this so?
The holding of expectations upon yourself:
The underlying discord is that of the implication that there is a second self. Expectations in this manor require a holder of, and a held upon. There are not two of you.
The holding of expectations upon an other:
That there is an other is an assumption / belief, and therein is in & of itself, an expectation which can not be met.
For it to seem as if there is an other requires the mixing of thought (other, another, a name, etc), with perception.
Put another way, what’s required is thought attachment, belief(s), the believing of thoughts, or, the illusion of ignorance.
In accordance with direct experience; you, awareness or consciousness as it were, experience:
- Thought (the activity of thinking) - directly.
And
- Perception - directly.
A thought is never perceived, as in seen or heard, such as visually or audibly with eyes and ears if you will.
A thought may be that of sight such as an image, or that of sound such as a voice.
That thought is directly experienced as, a thought.
And not, perception.
Perception has never been thought, as in thunk.
A thought may be experienced directly - and believed to be about some thing or some one seen or heard.
The thought is experienced directly, and perception (seeing & hearing) is experienced directly.
Seeing, hearing, perception & experience; are thoughts, and do not actually define what they point to.
Separate things or objects of perception (so to speak) - in accordance with direct experience - have no actual source, no beginning or ending.
In short, the holding of expectations upon an other, is the holding of expectations upon what is real only in so far as what’s appearing, and not in so far as appearance.
You are the one, and because this is so, it would be equally as foolish to hold expectations upon a refrigerator as it would an other.